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Für Frauen ist die Liebe eine nie endende Geschichte aus liebenswürdigen Kleinigkeiten, Ermunterungen, Erinnerungen und einem guten Gefühl, das immer wieder benannt und verzaubert werden sollte. "Das Gedankenleben einer Frau gleicht aktiven Computern mit zahlreichen geöffneten Fenstern, die alle gleichzeitig aktiv sind." Wer das begreift, hat den Schlüssel zum Herzen seiner Frau gefunden, sie kann diese Fenster nicht so schnell schließen wie der Mann vor dem Fernseher Platz nimmt und sich auf eine Sache konzentriert. (was er selten tun sollte)

Die Ratschläge in diesem Buch werden primär aus einem klassischen Rollenverständnis formuliert (Frau bleibt bei den Kindern zu Hause), es ist jedoch trotzdem lehrreich, weil es Grundmuster freilegt, die im Kern den kleinen, großen Unterschied betreffen. Dabei wird klar, dass Frauen vor allem emotionale Sicherheit wollen, die ihnen wichtiger ist als die finanzielle. Zuhören ist zudem entscheidender als die jeweiligen Probleme lösen wollen, es scheint, als ob Frauen die offenen Fenster der Vergangenheit öfters sehen und darüber reden wollen. Die eigene Liebe gleicht am besten einem Fortsetzungsroman bester Gefühle, ohne Streit und Zank.

Und meine Herren, auch wenn es schwer fällt: immer wieder über die Liebe reden, sie nie vergessen, möglichst viele Erinnerungstage einbauen und immer wieder (verbal) vermitteln, dass es nur sie, die Einzige, gibt: dies ist das ganz große Geheimnis. Gut zuhören können, nichts sonst dabei tun oder machen, daran denken, dass es eine gewisse Zeit dauert, bis alle offenen Computerfenster zu sind, und nichts steht der Zärtlichkeit entgegen.
 
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Clu98 | 9 andre anmeldelser | Apr 6, 2023 |
Another good installment by Shaunti Feldhahn. This one focuses on habits that occur in happy marriages.

My favorites are still For Men Only, and For Women Only.½
 
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BoundTogetherForGood | Aug 9, 2022 |
 
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beckykb6 | 1 anden anmeldelse | Apr 13, 2022 |
I was familiar with most of the ideas in this book, but it was really interesting to read so many men's words and commentary on them. From that perspective, I feel I understand on a much deeper level what those topics really mean to them. But there were times when Feldhahn's analysis of her data seemed a little awkward.
 
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slimikin | 19 andre anmeldelser | Mar 27, 2022 |
Re-reading this book was quite an eye-opener. I had been prompted to turning back to it after listening to a talk on marriage based on the author's previous book For Women Only. It helped me identify a few areas I really need to work on and reinforce others where I had been able to improve over the recent past. Regardless of where one is at in a relationship, it is definitely a must read!
 
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curlypat | 9 andre anmeldelser | Dec 26, 2021 |
Someone told me this would solve the question: "What is he really thinking when you ask him what he's thinking about and he says: 'nothing.'?" ( Feel free to correct the puntuation errors in that sentence. )

I don't think it did.
The goal was good. The execution was muddled for a couple of reasons. 1, the author kept saying how shocked she was when she saw her results. It felt repetitive. 2, there was no hard data to support her data. No "how many people took this survey," no "they were lumped according to age," nada. Maybe that wasn't significant. But I'd still like some evidence that this wasn't a MonkeySurvey type deal.
 
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OutOfTheBestBooks | 19 andre anmeldelser | Sep 24, 2021 |
Solid Continuation of Decades Long Research. I first encountered Shaunti's writing back *before* she began researching the things that would eventually lead her to much fame and this book, back when she was a *fiction* writer. Then she wrote a book called For Women Only nearly two decades ago... and has continued in that vein ever since, with this being the latest entry. Here, Feldhahn and her husband Jeff look specifically at how money shapes relationships and how each partner can understand both themselves and their partner in order to make the relationship stronger. Relying on research specifically for this book in addition to research and insight from previous books, this does a solid job of showing the root causes of much strife when it comes to money and will be yet another book quite a few therapists - Christian or not - recommend their patients read. I know the original books For Women Only and For Men Only helped me and some friends, and this one looks to have the same impact. Very much recommended.
 
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BookAnonJeff | Jul 11, 2021 |
Surprisingly insightful. Thought it was another fluff, cornball bunch of "duh." Not at all. Should be read before dating, engagement, or marriage. Wonderful insights, easy read, worth every minute.
 
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SurvivorsEdge | 9 andre anmeldelser | Mar 1, 2021 |
I thought the second half of the book was much better than the first half.
 
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LTSings | 2 andre anmeldelser | Jun 29, 2020 |
Many people erroneously believe that half of all marriages end in divorce but that just isn't true.

Once again, Shaunti Feldhahn brings light to the subject of marriage. It is good news to hear that most marriages are, in fact, happy.
 
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BoundTogetherForGood | 1 anden anmeldelse | Jan 15, 2019 |
It can be a bit daunting to find yourself the only woman in the room regardless of whether important topics are under discussion or just everyday technical or administrative ones. In either situation sometimes women can find themselves marginalized or having to assert (or defend) the veracity of their claims more strongly than they bargained for!

It’s easy to leave meetings of that sort feeling like an alien being and tempting to go to the next one w/a chip on your shoulder but neither of those responses is PRODUCTIVE.

Women who find themselves in such meetings over and over must develop some unique communication skills to handle male dominated meetings.

Sometimes I need a little help to prime the pump, so I turned to [b:For Women Only in the Workplace: What You Need to Know About How Men Think at Work|10970485|For Women Only in the Workplace What You Need to Know About How Men Think at Work|Shaunti Feldhahn|http://d.gr-assets.com/books/1328080154s/10970485.jpg|15888522]. I found it informative (if a bit dated in its perspective –but the author argues the average man's communication skills might not have evolved as fast as workplace expectations for equal treatment of women?)

It is based on a previous work titled [b:The Male Factor: The Unwritten Rules, Misperceptions, and Secret Beliefs of Men in the Workplace|7621355|The Male Factor The Unwritten Rules, Misperceptions, and Secret Beliefs of Men in the Workplace|Shaunti Feldhahn|http://d.gr-assets.com/books/1277074066s/7621355.jpg|7067195].

The one I read, reports the same research and information presented in The Male Factor, but further ‘focuses on the unique needs, interests and perspectives of readers of faith’ which is not the audience I usually strongly identify with! But, it was worth the read, and I'll now also be turning the pages of [b:The Male Factor|7621355|The Male Factor The Unwritten Rules, Misperceptions, and Secret Beliefs of Men in the Workplace|Shaunti Feldhahn|http://d.gr-assets.com/books/1277074066s/7621355.jpg|7067195] (no pun intended?) too.



 
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nkmunn | 1 anden anmeldelse | Nov 17, 2018 |
Many good men can (and do) go down the dark, inviting path of sexual promiscuity during their marriages. There is an Enemy of our souls that is waiting to put the right circumstances before us to trip us up.

This book gets into the life of a godly man who succombs to temptation. The inner turmoil is wonderfully written by this female author, who honors manhood throughout the book. The love of a good wife isn't always enough, which is apparent throughout the pages.

On the other side of the coin of sexual deviance is the girl. There almost always is one. Rarely do we know the heart of the girl/woman who goes down the path of stripping/porn/prostitution. It's harsh, damaging, and many times, life-ending. In the pages of this book you will get to know the horror that is the sex industry through the eyes and heart of one who has become trapped.
 
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impactwriter | 2 andre anmeldelser | Sep 5, 2018 |
Guys! Want a book that will help you figure out your woman? HERE IT IS!

You will NOT be disappointed while reading this book nor with the results that come from its application!

Get it and do it!
 
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impactwriter | 9 andre anmeldelser | Sep 5, 2018 |
I don't remember why I put this book on my TBR pile. It was an ok read, it was just very obvious stuff to me. The data from her questionnaires, was interesting and confirmed so much of what I felt I already knew. The inner lives of men, is really not that big of a mystery. Love Languages was a much more enlightening book. Maybe I read them out of order.
For more reviews see my blog: https://adventuresofabibliophile.blogspot.com
 
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Serinde24 | 19 andre anmeldelser | Aug 17, 2018 |
How can pastors have successful relationships not only in their homes but also in their churches? The fact is, the vast majority of marriages last a lifetime, and those who stick with troubled marriages usually make it. In most cases, a wife misunderstands what sex means to her husband. It has found most cases sex is primarily an emotional need for men, not primarily a physical one. If he feels desired, he also feels like a good husband.
 
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kijabi1 | 1 anden anmeldelse | Mar 22, 2018 |
How can pastors have successful relationships not only in their homes, but also in their churches? The fact is, the vast majority of marriages last a lifetime, and those who stick with troubled marriages usually make it.
 
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kijabi1 | 1 anden anmeldelse | Mar 10, 2018 |
A book that showcases the inner lives of men, how to understand and to flow with the way they reason, and to know the reason they do what they do.
 
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Franklyn_Azubuike | 19 andre anmeldelser | Feb 23, 2018 |
rather simplistic, but a good look for men on how the mind of a woman works. I'm just glad I am a guy :-)
 
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BookstoogeLT | 9 andre anmeldelser | Dec 10, 2016 |
I did a lot of underlining so Crystal knew what applied to me.
 
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BookstoogeLT | 19 andre anmeldelser | Dec 10, 2016 |
What a marvelous book. If you read all the rhetoric about the futility of getting married, it is discouraging. But the facts show that most marriages succeed and are happy. This is a very encouraging book and hopefully it will change the anti-marriage misinformation. Quick read, lot of information.
 
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Luke_Brown | 1 anden anmeldelse | Sep 10, 2016 |
I really and truly enjoyed this book. Most people who know me will be surprised to hear this, as I'm usually a fiction only type of reader. This book, even though non-fiction, kept me riveted. I couldn't wait to read more. It was inspiring, thought provoking, and well researched. And for a book of non-fiction, that's not even a true life story type book, to bring tears to my eyes in it's final chapter speaks volumes about the emotion the author put into this reading. I am hoping to come out of this with not only a better understanding of my husband, but a better relationship with him (if such a thing is possible since I consider my relationship very strong to begin with) I would definitely recommend this book to anyone currently in a relationship, or with any intention of ever being in a relationship with a man.
 
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MynTop | 19 andre anmeldelser | Apr 8, 2016 |
Hopefully my husband gets better understanding from me.
 
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cougargirl1967 | 19 andre anmeldelser | Feb 2, 2016 |
This is a study that investigates and measures the private thoughts related to Corporate behavior.
 
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Isabelmore | 1 anden anmeldelse | Nov 1, 2013 |
I reread this book recently, as a kind of refresher for myself. The first time I read it, I had just started dating the woman who is now my wife, almost four years ago. At the time, I had also read "For Women Only," the counterpart to this book, in an effort to offer notes and comments on it for my then-girlfriend's benefit.

Now, I am somewhat distanced from that companion reading, and I can see some flaws in this book as a stand-alone product.

Let me start off with the positives: It is an excellent book. It addresses an important need, and it offers research and statistics to do it. (Not being a researcher, I can't speak to the reliability of their research, but from what I do know, it's not so weak as to be discounted out of hand.) There are few other books in this same vein, although there are many which attempt to show men how women think; I have read even fewer which succeed even remotely.

This book manages to accomplish that, because it's not afraid to quote from the horse's mouth, as they say. Instead of philosophizing, psychologizing, or otherwise intellectualizing, the Feldhahns work with real women with real opinions saying things that - for some reason - they can't just say to their husbands/boyfriends.

That being the case, though, this book has some shortcomings. Almost all of these shortcomings fade, however, when this book is read in conjunction with its counterpart. When read alone, "For Men Only" is a pretty harsh condemnation of male behavior. Granted, some male behavior needs to change, but not all of it can be.

For example, when discussing the female multi-tasking, multi-thinking mind, the Feldhahns spend a great deal of time discussing feminine emotions. At several points, male emotions come into play - but these are discarded as ignorant, irrelevant, or unimportant. In short, from the perspective of this book alone, men must cater to and coddle the emotions of their wives, but if they ever have an emotional response to something, it should be dropped like a hot potato.

This sort of heavy-handed blame-game lurks throughout the book, and makes it upsetting, offensive, even unbearable to man forced to read it by itself. Only when you read both this book and its counterpart (which is pretty heavy-handed against women for their flaws) does everything fall into place as a mutual effort to improve the marriage and each other.

So, a note to any women who want their man to read this book: don't take the titles literally, and make sure he reads the one for you, too. It's important context.
 
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Versor | 9 andre anmeldelser | Sep 7, 2013 |
For Women Only in the Workplace : What You Need to Know About How Men Think at Work

Shaunti Feldhah

Book Description: Do You Know the Unwritten Rules of the Workplace?
As a veteran of Wall Street and Capitol Hill, Shaunti Feldhahn knows that even the most experienced Christian businesswoman can inadvertently sabotage her career simply because she doesn’t know how her male supervisors, colleagues, and employees think. For Women Only in the Workplace gives you startling insights into the expectations and perceptions of men at work. Whether you work in a corporate setting, a small business, or a ministry, you’ll find Shaunti’s research invaluable as you discover:
• What you need to know about a man’s hidden insecurity
• What “it’s not personal, it’s just business” actually means to men
• How men view emotion in the workplace—and what they consider to be emotion
• How what you wear can significantly hinder your effectiveness at work
• The secrets to being strong and competent—without being viewed as difficult
Based on eight years of intense research, extensive interviews, and national surveys of more than 3,000 men—from CEOs to assistants, from factory workers to lawyers—For Women Only in the Workplace gives you the keys you need to be who you are and be respected and successful wherever you work with men. Includes a group discussion guide.

Book Review: I found this book insightful. I did not agree with everything in this book, however I did think that there were many things worth learning and understanding. The best way to use this book is to glean information and work with everyone as professional as possible. While there is a treasure trove of research I also think there are just men (and woman) who are just difficult based on the fact that we live in a fallen world. The best that we can hope for is that as a Christian I can use this information to build up people around me.
I would like to thank Above the Trees and Multnomah Books for allowing me to read and review this book in return for a free copy and I was never asked to write a favorable review by anyone.
 
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Robin661 | 1 anden anmeldelse | Mar 19, 2013 |