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A Good Talk: The Story and Skill of Conversation

af Daniel Menaker

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"A stylish, funny and surprising guide to the art of conversation"--Provided by the publisher.
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I was very surprised at the overall low rating this book has received and also by a couple of brutally bad reviews. I thoroughly enjoyed reading it. I found Daniel Menaker excellent company, and thought he made his points very well. I enjoyed his humor, his anecdotes, his opinions, and found his conclusions quite interesting. I felt enriched by having read the book. Admittedly, there may be some better books on this subject out there, but I liked this one, and hope for some "better" reviews and reviewers for it! ( )
  MarthaHuntley | Aug 11, 2013 |
i'm still kind of shocked by how disappointing this book was. it is such a strange situation because it is a fascinating subject and i was so looking forward to reading about it. it is clear that the writer is extremely knowledgeable and he seems like a nice person who is genuinely interested in what makes conversations good. the problem is that the book is ultimately so poorly written that it doesn't do its subject matter or the writer's passion justice.

one of the most obvious and strange problems is that he chose to use a transcribed conversation to illustrate some points. but not only was this very, very long, taking up a significant portion of the text but the conversation itself wasn't particularly interesting to "listen" to. most bizarre of all- the conversation was between himself and another writer. he defended his decision to highlight one of his own conversations by pointing out that every other attempt at recording two random talkers failed. but i found it to be just inappropriate and thought he really should have kept trying so that he could more objectively analyze a conversation.

in addition to very regular name-dropping throughout the book he seems to try way too hard to be funny and both of these practices had the result of being quite distracting and made me feel like he was more concerned with trying to impress readers instead of just writing about his subject. i kept finding myself wishing he would just give the reader the interesting information and insight i knew he possessed. ( )
  julierh | Apr 7, 2013 |
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  pilarflores | Jul 22, 2010 |
A Good Talk: The Story and Skill of Conversation by Daniel Menaker (Twelve $20, 230 pages)

I started reading this book one cold, sunny February afternoon in a coffee shop on Linglestown Road. At the handful of tables scattered around the cozy room, people were engaged in conversation, some casual, some earnest, each participating in an activity so commonplace as to be almost unworthy of note. It was the perfect setting in which to ponder a lighthearted and yet thoughtful exploration of the subject of talk.

In A Good Talk, Daniel Menaker, a novelist and former editor at Random House and The New Yorker, offers an eclectic look at the history, psychology and, most practically, the art of conversation, what he calls (with utmost respect) “aim-less social talk.” Distinguishing it from goal-oriented communication (think the dreaded business meeting), he asserts, “communicating with one another for no immediate reason has to be the most quintessentially and exclusively human of all our behaviors.” Menaker traces the roots of conversation to primate grooming behavior and from there it’s a whirlwind trip from the Socratic dialogue (a nightmarish memory for those of us who attended law school), through the Renaissance to London’s seventeenth century coffeehouses, to contemporary America where, he notes, our antipathy to idle talk is manifest in our “thing for people who talk little and accomplish much.”

But this book at its heart is a practical manual, not an arid academic tome. Relying on the extended transcript of a conversation with a female friend (playfully referring to the two of them as “Fred” and “Ginger”), Menaker exposes the dynamics of conversation to help anyone profitably apply these lessons with ease to an upcoming social encounter. There’s a chapter of FAQs (“Frequently Arising Quandaries”) that’s a how-to on a wide range of stumbling blocks to meaningful conversation, from changing the subject, to boredom, to insults, with some useful tips on electronic communications (slightly grudging ones since they don’t benefit from the richness of face-to-face interaction) and the highly-charged topic of dating talk.

Menaker candidly identifies what for him are the three vital components of good conversation: curiosity, humor and impudence. “If you don’t have a genuine interest in the world around you and in others,” he argues, “no matter how entertaining you are as a storyteller, you will in the long run be at best a performer, at worse a bore.” What he dubs the “Great Joke” --- “the unfairness of being given the powers of choice and consciousness but entirely foiled in our effort to understand the meaning of our simple existence”--- is for him the root of all conversational humor. For that reason, there is no more effective tool to enliven a good talk than a little self-deprecating humor, an attempt to convey the idea that we’re all in this boat together paddling as furiously as we can. Impudence, or “speaking up with what you want to say but are afraid might be taken amiss,” also has its place in the conversational arsenal. But because it’s easily misunderstood, it’s a seasoning best applied with great care.

Despite its inherent pitfalls, Menaker believes “every time people talk together in a social and mutually gratifying way, the world becomes a better place.” Indeed, he claims (citing neurochemical research), “satisfying, non-goal-driven conversation enhances our lives and makes us feel good.” That’s a function, in no small measure, of the recognition that good talking requires empathetic listening to enrich it and give it meaning.

All one has to do is scan the AM radio dial or channel surf the cable TV lineup to know we’re surrounded by plenty of talk, but precious little conversation. Daniel Menaker, who worries that “fewer and fewer people know the pleasures and benefits of true conversation,” offers this breezy if ultimately serious-minded book as a refreshing tonic for our babbling world. If it inspires us to start thinking about ways we can talk to instead of at each other he’ll have accomplished something of lasting value.

Copyright 2010 Harrisburg Magazine ( )
  HarvReviewer | May 4, 2010 |
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